I have always thought that if you feel guilty when you eat, you will be overweight. The more you think that the food will make you fat, the more it will indeed make you fat. There are people that can eat whatever they want and not get fat and other people that keep going on diets and never lose weight. This makes me think that it is not really the food what makes the difference, it is their feelings and thoughts about the food. If they are anxious because they think that the food they are going to eat will make them fat and they keep thinking "I will get fat", "this makes me fat", "I shouldn't be eating this", etc. they will end up eating it and probably in a bigger quantity, due to the anxiety they feel. Additionally, they get fat just because they are convinced that they will get fat. On the other hand people that don’t feel guilty when they eat usually eat a smaller quantity because they know that they can eat it again whenever they want to; they enjoy it and get enough satisfaction to fulfill their need. They’ve stopped thinking about the food and feel satisfied. If a person with a guilty conscience tries to apply this and starts eating compulsively just because they feel free to do it, they will most likely gain weight. That is not the idea. What I would suggest is to start eating a small amount of the food you crave, enjoy it at the maximum and then reject every negative thought about what you ate and replace it with a positive thought like "I enjoyed it and now I feel satisfied".
For this suggestion to work, you must be very conscious of your state of mind and feelings, and you must be committed to eating small amounts. For example, if you feel the need to have a snack, break it in half; keep half of it for the next time that you feel the craving again and put it in a place where you don’t see it. Now you can enjoy the other half, taking small bites and savoring them as long as you can, while repeating "I am enjoying it and now I feel satisfied". Combine this exercise with affirmations repeated as many times as you can during the day. These are the affirmations that you will work with:
- "I am committed to think positively about myself",
- "I am losing weight because I feel good and I love myself",
- "It is easy to lose weight by feeling good",
- "I eat when I feel hungry only",
- “I, (name) love myself and I accept myself as I am”.
Write these affirmations in separate post-it notes. Then, select one positive thought every day; put it in front of your desk, in the refrigerator, on your night stand and in any place that you see several times during the day. Prepare several post-it notes with the same positive thought to put them in different places and every day select one positive thinking to work with it and put it in all these places. The next day you will select another positive thinking and replace all the cards. Memorize it and repeat it as many times during the day as you can and don't forget to repeat "I am enjoying this (whatever) and now I feel satisfied" while you eat. Try to catch yourself every time you have a negative thought about yourself and see what you are thinking. Stop the negative thoughts and replace them with the affirmation that you selected for that day. Keep it in your wallet in case you still haven't memorized the affirmation of the day so you will have it on hand when you need to replace a negative thought. If you do a repetitive task during the day, like walking or doing the dishes, use that time to repeat your affirmation of the day. Repeat it when you are in the bed before sleeping. Once you start feeling better and loving yourself, you will start losing weight.
With love,
Pesia Gesua
Bodyshapewear
